Life is filled with challenges and the marriage institution is no exception . Marriage has its challenges which when not properly handled can be disastrous. The first five years of marriage is always a difficult period for couples, this is the period when you and your partner see all the hidden attitudes about each other and start learning how to adjust and tolerate each other. If you can cope and pass through these years chances are your marriage will be able to withstand any other storm that comes its way in the future.
In the early years of your marriage it is not strange to get into argument from time to time with your spouse, it could be surprising how intangible things can cause serious argument between you and your spouse. I have seen marriages where something as little as where to keep tooth paste has caused an argument between couples which has led to the dissolving of their marriage. Unbelievable! you may say but that’s the truth. This things happen everyday in marriage, unimportant things causing arguments between spouse and degenerating into fight or murder in some case.
The honest truth is that it is not the cause of the argument that either lead to a fight or even in worst cases murder but how the argument was handled. Many years ago, in the second year of my marriage, I was watching a program in the sitting room when my partner demanded I continue watching it in my room as he wanted to watch another program and I fervently refused. I insisted I was the first person to start watching the program and that my partner should be the one to go to the room to watch, an argument ensued and at the end non of us watched any program. Those were my years of ignorance, stubbornness and wanting things my way. After over a decade in marriage, I have learnt a lot especially as it regards argument between marriage mates.
First when an argument starts between you and your partner, look at the cause of the argument and ask yourself is it worth the hullabaloo. Ask yourself are you putting your interest first above that of your partner. Like in my own case which i mentioned earlier, what would it have caused me to go to the bedroom to continue watching my program-Nothing. But because I put my own interest above my partner’s interest that is why the argument started. Hence when an argument starts see if you can resolve the cause of the argument in order to put an end to the argument.
Secondly if the cause can not be resolved immediately by you and the argument is heated up, please keep quiet. Do not talk back at your spouse. It takes two to tangle. If you don’t talk back after a while your partner will keep quiet but if you keep talking, some of your words can strike your partner like a match and heat up the argument more. Remember that words spoken at this moment can never be taken back and even when you makeup with your partner those words can hurt you and your partner forever, thus it’s better to keep quiet. Arguments that have degenerated to domestic abuse and murder was because one of the partners did not keep quiet or walk out of the situation.
Finally if you know you can’t hold back yourself from talking back at your partner , please leave the situation as quickly as possible. Come back when the whole place is calm and under control. Learn to dialogue rather than arguing with your partner, It works better. Though having a dialogue with your partner might not always yield the desired result but it’s still better than arguing with your partner. Argue less, dialogue more and you will have a successful marital relationship.
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