There is a saying that “honesty is the Best policy” but I always say that “Honesty is the only policy” being honest or truthful shouldn’t be an option and that is why i believe it is the only policy and not the Best policy. Honesty is very important in all facet of life, be it in business, formal or informal relations with people and also in marriage.
Honesty is what lays the foundation for trust, no relationship can function properly without trust, trust is built overtime in a relationship where there is honesty. Honesty is the bedrock of any relationship especially marital relationship. One dishonesty from you can destroy the trust your partner have in you. If you want a lasting relationship you must be determined to be honest with your partner no matter how bitter the truth may be, at the long run you will be glad you did.
Most importantly do not hide any information from your partner which is very important to your relationship, hoping that by hiding it perhaps before you get married and that if your spouse gets to know years later after your marriage that it won’t really matter again. Do not be deceived, some marriage have crumbled because of dishonesty or secrets kept from a spouse before marriage. The truth is if your partner loves you telling him or her the truth wouldn’t change that, perhaps your partner might get angry at that time but overtime he or she will appreciate the fact that you were honest.
Truth can never be padded, tell it as it is and set yourself free. Any relationship based on falsehood will collapse. Make it easy for your partner to vouch for you when you are not there simply because your partner knows you are truthful. Are you the kind of person your partner can put their foot down for? or are you the type that your spouse needs to always hear your own side of the story before he can take an action? Padding the truth to make it sweet to the ear is tantamount to dishonesty and if overtime your spouse can’t trust you even when you are honest he or she will still doubt you.
There is an adage in Yoruba language in Nigeria that says ” Asekpamo lo wa Asegbe kan kan osi” meaning you can’t hide the truth forever. No matter how long you keep on lying someday the truth will poke out its face and you will definitely be put to shame.
obviously there is no gain in padding the truth, tell it as it is, build your relationship on honesty, be truthful at all times, never be caught wanting. Remember there is no such thing as half truth, tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. If you know the truth and say it, the truth will set you free. Don’t be untruthful and stress your brain to be extremely retentive as a good liar must have a good memory. Why go through the stress when being truthful can save you the pain.
Do not deceive yourself because you are getting away with padding the truth presently in your relationship, you are only sitting on a time-bomb and when it explodes,it will be too late for you to retrace your path. Tell the truth at all time in your relationship and enjoy the peace of mind that comes with it.
At the beginning of my relationship with my fiancé I lied to him I was a Virgin not knowing it will eventually lead to marriage. On the wedding night the truth was revealed and I felt like the earth should swallow me up, he has not forgiven me till now
Lying to ones spouse is terrible, I had a fair share of it and would never do it again
My husband is a pathetic liar
I was always lying to my boyfriend in school that I am from a rich home until the day he visited a friend in my area and saw me in my house, that was the end of the relationship
Lying cost me my job, I told my boss I was sick and could not come to work only for us to meet at my sister Inlaws engagement ceremony that day.
Should I tell my husband that I may be the cause of our infertility? Am so scared to face the truth
I told my husband I have a crush on someone else , I was only trying to be honest. But it cost me the joy of my marriage. All I wanted was a shoulder to lean but he misunderstood the whole thing
I once told my husband I was in my period so he can let me be , when he later discovered I was lying, he refuse to touch me for 6 months. I regret lying
How many men will tell their wife about their side chick? 98% of married men even single guys are liars. Honestly they irritate me
My husband called in one day that he would come back late from work due to meetings but unfortunately for him he never knew when he ended the call his phone was still on, so from the background I heard all the discussion between him and his girlfriend , it was so disgusting
My sister inlaw came to our house and said she wants to spend 2weeks with us that her husband travelled, later I discovered she quarreled with her husband. I was so angry because I was wondering why she have to lie to me
My cousin who stays with me was dating my boyfriend under my ver nose and I did not know, my boyfriend would buy her things and lie that he is only taking care of his sister inlaw
My heart has been broken so many times , I can trust a man any longer
My mother discouraged me from marrying my husband , she said he has a sugar coated tongue and such people lie a lot, I never agreed , today am facing the music . I wish I had listened
My husband stored the name of her girlfriend as my name can you imagine that,so that even if he’d see it I will just think it’s me. One day my son mistakenly dialed the number and then called my attention that someone is with my phone, I told him I had my phone with me , it was then I discovered what was going on. I can’t get myself to forgive him. It hurts badly
Well I haven’t caught my husband lying and I pray I never will
My colleague lies a lot and funny enough he has a bad memory as he keeps contradicting himself all the time
My man was spending my money on his new catch and he keeps telling me to give him more money for a project he’s handling.until the day I saw the text the girl sent to him thanking him for the money which was exactly the same amount I gave him that day
Once my partner pause or repeat the question I asked him before answering I know he is lying
I suspect Ng wife is dating her boss , I confronted her but she lied, what should I do
My wife had a child before our marriage and never told me , when I later found out I was so devastated
My biggest nightmare, I married my wife with 4 weeks pregnancy when I haven’t touched for 6months before our wedding
My friends marriage ended because she had a 2 year old daughter before marriage, I warned her then to tell her husband about it before they marry but she said she was afraid to loose him. Now the man has found out and wants to quit the marriage
My guy claims he works in a bank and I believed him. One day a friend tipped me off that he is lying, so I decided to follow him to work one day unknown to him and look and behold my banker worker works in a factory. I was shocked to my marrow, such a liar
Before I spend above my limit just to impress my woman, when her demand kept on increasing, I knew I have to come out clean and let her know am not as rich as she thought. It was so difficult for me due to my ego but honestly when I did it was as if I was released from a bondage. I surely agree with the writer that truth comes with peace of mind
I don’t know how to lie, if an lying I start stammering and my wife knows. So instead of lying I just keep quiet.
If you have my type of brother as a boyfriend, you are on a long thing. My brother lies to so many girls that he would marry them, I have warned him because of the day it would backfire but he keeps telling me he is a sharp guy
After dating my boyfriend for 7 years with the promise that he would marry me, I fed and clothe him only to discover he has a wife and 2 kids in the village
A lot of guys this days use marriage to get to ladies because they know most of us are desperate to settle down , they now lie with marriage
There are some men it’s difficult to detect that they are lying, I pray no one falls prey for them
I and my husband suffered to build our house, the contribution was like 50-50 unknown to me his own contribution was from another woman that has kids for him. What a world.
People don’t know that they are lying when they take their vows but refuse to live up to it especially when they quit their marriage when things become worse
My husband abandoned me when I had an accident and can’t walk even though he promised he will always be there for me, now that I can walk he is back and begging me but I don’t think I will give him a chance
There are some truth that I feel can break a marriage. How do I tell my wife am in love with a younger girl won’t that end the marriage? I better deal with it till am able to get the girl off my mind
I don’t mind my partner padding the truth in as much I don’t get hurt after all what I don’t know can’t kill me
I just found out my wife is older than me and it’s driving me crazy, just because she has a small stature she lied about her age and removed a whole 7years from it. How do I deal with knowing she is the same age with my elder sister.
My sister is very good in telling lies and she sees nothing wrong with it, she says it’s called being smart
I always tell my husband never to hide the truth from me, even if he is dating someone else or impregnates someone because it’s better for him to tell me than for me to hear it from outside