It is surprising how many are eager to get married but are not really ready to be married. Most couples today have been robbed of their joy in marriage because of misplaced priority. Your marriage should be a haven for you and your partner and if it’s not of course it means you have misplaced priority . Are you robbing your partner of his or her joy in marriage because you are not getting your priority right?
If you want to stay single, then remain single but do not get married and still want to live a single life, let go of your way of life when you were single, now you have responsibilities and you must take them seriously. It is sad that today some partners are yet to realize that their partner and children are their first priority, if as a couple you do not realize this, I assure you that it won’t take long for the joy in your marriage to fly out of the window and your partner to get frustrated . There are jobs you can take as a single person but once married you will think twice about taking or staying in that job . For instance let assume your work involves traveling a lot , well when you were single this of course won’t be a problem but dear friend now that you are married you need to think twice about it. It is not enough to provide for the family as a man or as a woman to get a chef, nanny, househelp to take care of your home while you are away on your numerous tour. You can not push your responsibilities to someone else all in the name of struggling to make ends meet.
If your partner continuously calls your attention to this or keeps complaining that your career or your pursuit of money is robbing your relationship of its joy, regardless of what you bring to the table, it’s time to evaluate your priority.
Whatever your status, always remember that your immediate family is your first priority, never allow anything usurp this position. Give your partner the love, affection and attention they deserve. If your partner wanted a chef or housemaid, he would simply have gotten one instead of getting married. So it’s you your partner wants. Don’t keep late night hanging out with the boys, you are no longer a bachelor, instead invite them over to the house if you must. You and your partner should enjoy your marriage and not endure it, so get your priority right.
Mine was a terrible experience, I had a very lovely family before my wife got a job that requires her to travel on behalf of her company. The pay was extremely good even higher than what I earned. I talked to her about her job that she couldn’t continue as I work so late and we can’t just leave the kids at the mercy of the house helps . She said she will think about it and after a week she started giving me attitude. She told her parents I was jealous of her success. The kids started learning a lot of horrible things from the help. I couldn’t bear it anymore because it’s not as if I can’t take care of the bills, I told her to choose either between the family and the her job and to my surprise she chooses her job. She has packed out of the house and all my plea has fallen on a deaf ear. I wondered if it was wrong for me to ask her to show more interest in me and the children.
From the inception of our marriage i and my husband made it clear the roles of each other and agreed that we will not allow anything change this. To the grace of God it’s been working for us
I was discussing with a neighbor yesterday the reason most of the celebrity marriage do not last and it is mostly because of misplaced Piority. What should be the first they make it secondary all in the pursuit of wealth and fame
Any woman I must marry must be ready , I mean really ready for marriage. Not that you will be married and want to live like a single girl. She must agree that our family will be her first Piority regardless of anything
Misplaced priority is destroying a lot of homes today