It is very easy for us to make a long list of what we want and expect from our partner without looking inwards to see if we also have the quality . You may not even know you are selfish until you read the signs below.
1. A selfish partner always uses the word me, mine instead of us , our. When you get married you and your partner become one, so therefore you cannot continue to use the singular word as if you were still single.
2. A selfish partner always looks for its own interest first. Whatever decisions he takes must Favour him or her. This should never be the case because when you are married your partner’s interest should always come first before yours.
3. A selfish partner hardly gives but always likes to take. He or she always wants all his request to be met but will never do the same for their partner.sSometimes he or she complains of tiredness when it’s time for the person to render their marriage due, but everytime the person wants it he or she makes sure the partner gives it to them, he or she would never complain of tiredness then but only complains if it’s the partner demanding for it.
4. Discuss his own issues with you but will never listen or show interest in yours.He or she is always quick to discuss their personal issues and worries with you, they crave for your attention and likes you to listen them. They are happy they can share their troubles with you but when you have your own problem that don’t give you attention. Sometimes they try to change the topic when you are discussing your worries with the person. This is totally unacceptable, you should be able to reciprocate the love and attention your partner shows to you back. You must always be considerate and offer them a shoulder to lean on in their times of trouble.
5. Never seeks for your idea or reach a mutual agreement with you . In marriage what ever decision you want to take or make regarding the family you must carry your partner along.couples who wish to enjoy a successful marriage avoid having the selfish spirit in all its totality. Remember also that your partner may have all these signs without them knowing, so it’s your duty to lovingly point it out to your partner so they can make necessary changes. When you and your partner avoid having the selfish spirit in your marital relationship only then can you both have a successful married life.