Domestic violence begins in the heart and mind; the way we act begins with how we think. To stop violence the abuser needs to transform his way of thinking. The first step in this transformation has to do with how you view your marriage partner. Do you love your wife? Do you honour her? He who loves his wife loves himself. Or you as a woman do you have deep respect for your husband, do you lovingly submit to him or do you challenge his headship? Surely you can not truthfully argue that you really honor your wife if you assault her physically or verbally or if you as a wife screams at your husband , addresses him sarcastically, or constantly scolds him, you can’t say that you truly love and respect him.
Secondly to avoid domestic violence, you and your spouse needs to cultivate self control. Self control helps you to settle difficulties that arise quickly rather than letting frustration build up inside of you. It helps you keep calm when situations are heated up between you and your marriage mate.When argument happens between you and your partner and the situation seems to be getting out of hand, in order to avoid domestic violence it’s best you leave the scene if you feel yourself loosing control. Going for a walk or engaging in some physical exercise may help you to control your emotions. You must learn as couple to be slow to anger, you need a lot of patience in dealing with your partner. Your family should be a place where love and peace should flourish, hence you and your spouse should avoid domestic violence in all its ramifications in order for your family life not to deteriorate.
Well the way your partner treats or value you will determine if he will exhibit violence towards you.
It all started when we were courting, when we had arguments he will slap me but will later beg and buy me gifts. I thought that after our marriage he would change but little did I know I was only fooling myself. I was in for a bigger show. He beats me almost everyday but I decided to separate from him temporarily to save my life.
We had been married only one year when we began to have serious problems, I and my husband did not have much in common and spoke little except when we are arguing, despite having a young daughter I seemed for legal separation when he bacame violence towards me.
My wife always looked for every opportunity to start a fight with me, most times I try my best to avoid the fight but she will say very hurtful things that makes me get into a fight with her. Honestly I wish she would change as this is not my idea of marriage. This days I find it difficult going back home early as I do no know what awaits me at home. Don’t ever pray for a quarrelsome wife.
For me I think people in generally should learn to treat others the way they want to be treated with that people or even husband and wife will not get into a fight
When I think of marriage and what people pass through , am afraid to get married
It all boils down to maturity for me. Two matured minds definitely should know when they reach their limit to avoid physical and domestic violence.
The problem is the harsh reality of life has made it difficult for most people to be tolerant, this days people including husband and wife have zero tolerance level and that is why things that would ordinarily be ignored leads to fight in a family.
I was once a victim of domestic violence still my husband received help and today it’s all history
Please leave your marriage if you are a victim don’t die there
My advice is study your partner,if your partner has anger issues then try not to upset him or run your tongue when he is angry
When my husband started abusing me, I got our family members involved immediately . His parents also played a significant role in helping him
Someone once told me that because marriage is for better for worst that I should stay in an abused marriage. Imagine how can one ever say that