Have you ever been in a close interpersonal relationship without a problem or without being hurt? Hardly.
The truth is, there is hardly any human relationship without misunderstandings and disagreement due to human imperfection.Sometimes, your partner might do the right thing at the wrong time or the wrong thing at the right time and this might cause friction between both of you. This friction or conflict could lead to deterioration or dissolution of your relationship if both of you are not willing to let go and give the gift of forgiveness.
I must tell you that the gift of forgiveness is very expensive to give away especially when you have to give it to someone you love so much who has hurt you so deeply without being remorseful about hurting you.As difficult as it may be to forgive an erring partner, it is in your best interest to forgive if you want your relationship to survive. Couples most especially should not withhold forgiveness from each other as it is commonplace in marriage to experience heartache and pain.
If you withhold forgiveness from your partner, you can be likened to someone who has taken poison and is expecting the other person to die for the poison he or she has taken. It’s that possible? Never! So, no matter how deeply hurt you may feel, if you do not forgive , you are only putting yourself in the bondage of bitterness and resentment towards your partner.
I know it is EXTREMELY difficult to forgive your partner if him or her betrays you by getting emotionally involved with someone else but the simple truth is that Bitterness will only destroy your relationship,it will separate you from your partner and lessen your commitment to each other. Bitterness and resentment will negatively affect your relationship by taking away whatever good that is in your relationship,but you do have the power to pull down the wall of bitterness and resentment if only you are willing to give the free gift of forgiveness.
Love and affection will only flourish in your relationship not because there will be no conflicts but because of your willingness to always forgive your partner and set yourself free from the bondage of bitterness.You must learn to put whatever that has happened and is causing you pain in the past in order to be able to forgive completely . When you forgive completely, you will not bring up the past wrongdoing of your partner in the future.Forgiveness will make you experience freedom from the stranglehold that lack of forgiveness can have on you.
Lack of forgiveness can harden your heart and make you cynical of everything in your relationship.it also makes your relationship stagnant.lack of forgiveness will make you to keep on piling the wrongs done to you by your partner thereby making you have a mountain of wrongs that you have to forgive.
Concentrate your energy on having a healthy relationship by forgiving and also let me mention that your hurts will heal quickly when you forgive your partner.
Are you holding unforgiveness in your heart or are you bitter or resentful towards your partner? As you read this, I urge you to expunge all such bitterness and give the free gift of forgiveness .
For the good of your relationship and also for a long last relationship, I urge you to work at always forgiving your partner. Remember a lasting relationship is made up of two good forgivers.