Marital Fidelity Is Reciprocal

Last week I was with some acquaintances and during our discussion we got talking about marital infidelity and we shared our different views on this. They were trying hard to convince me that there are times when marital infidelity is unavoidable but I strongly disagree with that assumption. Let me start by saying it categorically that marital infidelity is unjustifiable. There is no reason that could excuse cheating on your partner. When I was in paid employment during one of our official training we were asked a simple question which I will never forget, the question was if you were to be a buyer would you like to buy from yourself? That was a thought provoking question which simply means would you like to be treated the way you treat your customers.

I will also ask you the same question, would you like your partner to act like you in regards to marital fidelity? If your answer is No, it means you have to change your way of life. There is a saying that what is good for the goose is also good for the gander, if you feel you have a reason for being unfaithful in your marriage or you feel you can not control your desires when tempted, do not hurt badly to the extent of getting into a fight with your partner when they also engage in marital infidelity because if it’s good for you, it is also good for your spouse. Learn to treat your spouse the exact way you want to be treated. Do not flirt with the opposite sex, sleep around and yet demand faithfulness from your partner. If cheating on you will hurt you, it would hurt your partner more when you do.

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I find it worrisome that in some culture the man is allowed to get away with infidelity as if it does not hurt the woman but the same man would let out brimstone and fire if he is suspicious that his wife is seeing another person let alone cheat on him. You must know that marital fidelity is reciprocal, if you don’t want to be cheated on never also cheat on your spouse. Even though no reason can justify marital infidelity as a cheater is a cheater but never give your partner a reason to cheat. When you indulge in marital infidelity you are sending a signal to your spouse that infidelity is allowed in your marriage.

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Learn to be contented and stay within your own space. If you are not contented with what your spouse can offer you s3xually, you are only setting up yourself for infidelity. Avoid watching pornography and getting unnecessarily attached to the opposite sex. Love your partner more, dedicate yourself to your relationship, make it a known principle for your partner that infidelity is not tolerated in your marriage. Remember, what you give is what you get, except you have a partner who has the fear of God otherwise you will be paid back in your own coin. Marital infidelity is an enemy that must be chased out of your home, never allow it to destroy the beautiful home you have built. Say no to marital infidelity in all its ramifications.

The power to make your marriage enjoyable is in your hand and the first step to this is by avoiding marital infidelity. You can read more on how to handle an unfaithful partner in our previous article Infidelity In Marriage:The Way Out.