How To Preserve Your Marriage As A Man When Your Wife Is The Breadwinner

When this happens, most times the man’s ego is crushed and he starts reading every meaning to the wife’s action and finds himself unknowingly detesting the wife. Whereas, on the wife’s side she is struggling with her new role as the provider as it is unnatural for the woman to provide. Women does not have the inherent nature to provide, hence, it is always a struggle. That is why the woman gets fed up with this role quickly and becomes angry.

It’s just like asking the man to do all the chores in the house, it will be a struggle as men naturally are not domesticated, same applies to women when it comes to being a provider. That is why after a while the woman would start to complain bitterly.

If you are a man who finds yourself in this situation, you must first understand that the woman is not created to be a provider. Hence, even if you struggle with your ego this is not the time to prove to the woman that you are the man in the house by demanding certain services you got when you were the provider. You need to be very humble, appreciate your wife by complementing her effort rather than complaining or pretending that you do not notice her effort.

This is a period you must communicate regularly with her. Find out how to support her even if it means helping to prep meals before she is back home, taking care of the kids, doing house chores, that way she can rest and not be overly stressed despite being the breadwinner. When you expect her to still do everything including taking care of the home despite providing while you sit at home doing nothing this will lead to resentment or make her to seek emotional support outside the marriage.

Your inability to provide financially, does not make you incapable of providing emotional and physical support which would help makeup for the finance. It is also important to update her daily on your plans regarding your financial situation as this will give her hope that you realize that being the breadwinner is not her role and it is just a temporary thing.

This is the period to show her so much love rather than complaining about what she is not doing. This is not the time to start monitoring her or showing you don’t trust her. As difficult as the present situation may be for you as a man don’t let it cloud your mind if you want to preserve your marriage and still earn your respect in your marriage.

To preserve your marriage, you must work with her and support her in any way possible rather than work against her till you are able to take up the role of the breadwinner.