In marriage there is nothing as sweet as your partner reassuring you of his or her love for you, it gives you peace of mind and soothes your soul. Have you ever wondered why your partner love you? Do you know why he choose to spend each day of his or her life with you? Would you love to know specifically why your partner loves you or do you feel there is no need for that? Sometimes you may feel the most important thing is that your partner loves you and knowing what specifically he or she loves you for makes no difference.
Well, in as much as much as it is importance for you to reaffirm your partner of your love, it is always importance to let your partner know the specific reason why you love him or her. I will give you two examples to drive home my point, for example when a child comes back from school and you inquire what he or she has learnt that day in school and the child just tells you ” I learnt a lot” without being able to tell you specifically what he learnt from each subjects that was taught in school for that day, it can be assumed that the child learnt nothing because the statement ” I learnt a lot ” is general and does not specifically state what that child has learnt. In the same vein if your partner can not specifically tell you why he or she loves you then it’s more or less as if your partner doesn’t really love you because you can’t love someone for no reason except if it’s infatuation.
In an office environment , during the appraisal period you are told specifically your areas of strength and you get good marks there, your areas of weakness are also pointed out which you would have to work on to be graded better in your next appraisal. This can also be compared to your partner telling you specifically why they love you because your partner is appraising you , by telling you the reason for their love ,it helps you maintain that quality or character they love you for.
For instance my partner is a family person , because my partner loves to spend so much time with me and the kids. So I mention this to my partner as my my reason whenever I say “I love you” This makes my partner to spend much time with me and the kids knowing this is one of the reasons that makes me love him.
Next time you tell your spouse why you love him or her, be sure to mention specifically why you do .