Remember that your wedding lasts just one day , but your marriage last a lifetime. Avoid concentrating too much on the act of getting married . You can alleviate much of the tension by being moderate. There is nothing wrong with elaborate wedding but an elaborate wedding may please relatives and community , but it may leave the newly weds and their families exhausted and financially drained.
Some adherence to local customs is reasonable , but slavish and perhaps conformity can overshadow the meaning of the occasion and rob you of the joy that you should have. While considering the feelings of other, the groom is primarily responsible for deciding what will go on at the wedding feast.
Most importantly plan ahead for a life of being married. Then you will have prepared well for a successful marriage.